Dearest Violet,
On your
three and a half year birthday you threw a shoe at my head. You then yelled at
me that I was a terrible mom, and that you were going to take away my coffee. This
was brought on because I wouldn’t let you cross a major street without holding
my hand. To sum up, at forty-two months you are stubborn, independent and
fierce.
In all
honesty, sweetheart, life with you these past six months hasn’t been all roses
and sunshine. It has been hard. You are at a cross between a tyke and a
toddler. A big kid and a little girl. However, one of the things that I love
about parenting you, sweet third baby of mine, is that I feel that I have found
my confidence. And finding my confidence in motherhood has been nothing more
than finding confidence in myself. It has been sidling up to failure, getting
cozy with doubt. It has been questioning the unanswerable and praying the
unthinkable. It has been understanding that my role here is to love and love
and love. To teach, to train, to model. To bite my tongue.
Gaining
confidence in parenting has given me the understanding that this work is hard,
that the fruits of our labor are slow to witness. It allows me to trust that
there is growth, just under the surface, not yet visible, and know if and when
we will see it is far less important than watering daily.
Besides
your wildly independent stubborn (ahem,
who do you get that from I wonder?) streak, you are creative, funny and
smart with a booming personality. You love to play puppies and babies and
family. You truly believe you can read music and play the piano and ask weekly
when you can start lessons. You are constantly asking to “go for a run” with me
and your favorite game to play is catch. Your favorite afternoon activity to
help cook dinner, and you squeal with delight when I tell you we can make a new
batch of play-doh. You love any Llama
Llama book, and you live in a world of Harry Potter spells, and kiddo, you really
do need that 45-minute afternoon nap. Every time I turn around you have pulled
out the all painting supplies, every marker we own, and multiple pairs of scissors to make a "project." Besides your blossoming crafting skills, you
have been experimenting with idioms and colloquiums quite a bit. You are
constantly telling me that you are “not in the mood” for something (usually a
nap) and when something surprising happens you say, “holy moly guacamole.”
Additionally,
you are developing more independence. You insist on brushing your teeth yourself.
You never want me to buckle your car seat. You are anxious to read “by
yourself,” and are always correcting me if I miss a word. I love watching you
gain more independence and seeing the confident young girl you are, but I’d be
remiss if I didn’t tell you that it is a little bittersweet watching you morph
from my baby to my little girl right before my eyes.
Violet, you
are a delight. You are sweet, adventurous and imaginative and always, always asking
for a snack, and you are absolutely perfect for this family, even though you only allow me to wear "shirts with holes in them." You brighten my
life in a way I could have never imagined. So, while these last six months have been a
little tougher, a little harder, I live for the snuggles and cuddles in
between.
I love you
more than all the stars in the sky and the water in the ocean.
Love,
Momma
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